Stop the Body Shaming

by Emmy on April 23, 2015

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Have you known someone who lost a great deal of weight, and then forgot what it was like to be heavy? Someone who went from understanding the issues overweight people experience, to shaming them? Recently I decided I had to cut ties with a casual friend for body shaming. He’d been very overweight before I met him, and had lost the weight and achieved a body he’s very proud of. This is a great accomplishment, and I always told him so.

But, he’d forgotten what it was like to be heavy apparently. He’d make rude comments about overweight people all of the time. It was as though he now felt that if he’d been able to do it, then everyone should follow his exact steps and just do it already. The problem is, weight loss doesn’t work that way. He would make little snide comments here and there about my weight, and the weight of others. I called him out on it every time. But there was one final time where it was just so rude, and the person wasn’t around to speak up, and I decided I was done. I had tried explaining how that makes a person feel, and reminding him of how life used to be for him too. But, I was getting no where, and decided that I just didn’t need to keep that kind of negativity and body shaming in my life.

I know that sometimes the people who do this to us are closer, and not as easy to remove from our experience. But it is important to speak up to these people. Truth be told, it’s their own insecurity. It is their own fear that they will return to their former selves and be the victims of that kind of talk again. It’s a defense, but it still isn’t OK.

Along these lines, body shaming doesn’t just happen to those who are overweight. If you haven’t already seen this video by Cassey Ho of Blogilates, then you really need to watch it. Body shaming happens to all body types, and it needs to stop!

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This Technique is Helping My Anxiety

by Emmy on April 17, 2015

Instatus 17-04-2015 11_52I’ve suffered from severe anxiety my entire life. I’ve tried medication, therapy, diet and exercise. They’ve all helped in their own way, but it’s still something I deal with daily. I’m not on medication anymore, and can’t really afford therapy, so I’ve been looking for anything else that might help. My biggest issue is worrying about things that could happen, or things that are unsettled for whatever reason.

Enter Rebekah Borucki of Bex Life! I took a class with Bex, and have been watching her videos for a while now. She’s got great advice, and if you’re not already following her…well you should be! So when she posted a video about relieving anxiety in one step, I was obviously curious. In this video she interviews Christine Hassler who gives an amazing technique to manage anxiety that I have been using since I watched it.

I bought a small notebook that would fit in my purse, and every day I record the things that I need to do on one side, and the things I’ll let the universe (I’m not religious) handle. I can tell a huge difference on the days that I don’t do this simple little thing.

Honestly, a lot of the things on the list for the universe are things I may have to do myself or deal with in some way, but if  I don’t know how I’m going to handle it, I just put it in that column. When I start thinking about those things, and freaking out, I just remember that the universe is handling that thing, and focus on the things I can control.

I still have my moments where I melt down and completely freak out, but this has helped so much. So watch the video, connect with these two awesome women, and let me know if it’s helping you as much as it is me!

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Forgiving Yourself

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This is going to be really hard to write. But today I gave someone else advice about their writing, and now I have to take that advice myself. This person was worried about sharing her truth because she knew that there were people in her life who read her stuff, and judge her for it. […]

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Lane Bryant’s I’m No Angel Campaign

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Plus size fashion retailer Lane Bryant has launched a new campaign called “I’m No Angel” taking an obvious stab at Victoria’s Secret and their Angel line. Not surprisingly, it’s being met with a lot of positive feedback from women of all body types who want to see themselves represented in marketing and given the acknowledgement […]

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Losing Weight a Second Time

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  When I lost weight the first time, I was in denial. I hadn’t really paid attention to the weight creeping on, and had a very warped sense of what I looked like. There weren’t any pictures of me, because I was always behind the camera. I knew I was heavy, but thought I carried […]

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I’m Mad Pumped for #NoExcuses 2015!

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As part of the Fitapproach #NoExcuses Challenge for 2015, I’m going to be participating in daily challenges, and today they’ve given us a little Mad Lib to fill in!   Hey 2015, it’s me Emmy (nickname, spirit animal, real name, blog name) This year I would like to start a yoga practice, train for a 5K, and […]

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What’s New With Spartan Race?

January 11, 2015

You all know how much I love the Spartan Race series, and they have so much amazing stuff going on in 2015 that I know you’re going to be interested in. Despite the fact that I am not in good enough shape to compete in a Spartan at this time, I have been to a […]

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New Year – Simpler Goal

January 4, 2015

Happy 2015 everyone! I hope you had a great holiday season, and that you have welcomed 2015 in with open arms. Admittedly, I love a new year. I love the clean slate feeling that comes with January 1st. Today I want to talk about resolutions. That’s what you talk about around the new year right? Personally, […]

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Emmy’s Holiday Gift Guide

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Are you having trouble deciding what to give your loved ones this holiday season? I admit, I’m struggling with a few people on my list. So, I thought I’d make a little gift guide to help you out. These are products that I own, and love, which is why I’m recommending them to you! Fitbit […]

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Vegetarians Who Go Back to Meat

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My Facebook feed has been full of posts about a study that says that 84% of vegetarians and vegans go back to eating meat. This study was conducted by the Humane Research Council and it appears that the research was conducted to learn the reasons why they go back, so as to provide more support. […]

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